I'm sorry, but I take issue with this. I've mentioned it before, but now I'm going to be direct and open about it because I'm sick of seeing ideas like it being used to justify people being inconsiderate and rude in their weblogs.
While I do think that readme makes some good points, I'm mostly taking issue with this section:
"If they do not want you reading it, or suddenly stop posting entries, ask them why and if necessary, stop going to the site. It is important that as a friend, relative, co-worker or whatever you may be to the writer, that your presence at their weblog not impede their ability to express themselves. Remember this is their outlet. They may not want you to read certain things they might write about you or others you care about, in order to spare your feelings, avoid drama or maintain their privacy. You should respect this and immediately stop going to the site, and never relay any information you gather at their site to others who might use it against them."
I must respectfully disagree. Writing in an online journal is NOT the same as writing in pen and paper journal that is seen only by you and the underside of your mattress. Some of my readers are probably getting tired of me saying this, but I'm going to keep talking about it until I stop getting it thrown in my face by rude writers: PRIVACY. DOES NOT. EXIST. ON THE INTERNET.
ESPECIALLY when you A) are in webrings and B) LINK TO THE WEBSITE OF THE PERSON YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. I mean, could B be more of a DUH? If you link to someone, and then later write negatively about them, you've got no right to bitch and moan about how they weren't supposed to see it, because the only reason they did was because of your own carelessness.
Regardless of the steps you think you've taken to hide your blog, eventually it's going to be found, and you had better be prepared for a backlash if you are writing rude shit. It's not immature to be offended at a callous remark. It's immature to think that you shouldn't be taken to task and that you are not responsible for what you write in a public forum. Yes, I said PUBLIC. Obviously this is especially true for people who don't take any measures to hide the URL of their blogs (such as me), but it holds true for people who do, too. The Internet is a PUBLIC FORUM. GET OVER IT. Stop spouting this stupid, childish, whiny diatribe of, ohhh, it's my personal ranting space! I can do what I please! No one can say anything against me about it! To do so obviously shows their immaturity! The first three, I'm fine with. The last, no. Like I've said here before, you can feel free to take me to task if I write about you specifically in a negative light. Because I take responsibility for the shit I write, which is why when I'm pissed off at someone I don't generally write about in a public blog.
I'd be lying if I said this wasn't inspired by something, because it was, but I'm refraining from naming names because I know the writer I'm thinking of is trying to keep her blog inaccessible. But if she reads this, and wants to comment, and wants to IM me, or whatever, I'll answer.
As for the rest of the readme, I don't have a real problem with it. In fact, I like the following paragraph:
If someone writes about you and you don't appreciate it, approach them about it. Try to remain calm and polite. Explain that you are entitled to your privacy as well. There are many compromises that can be reached from using vague nicknames to protect your anonymity, or not mentioning you at all. If you are upset because they are writing negative things about you, be reasonable, try to see if there is a way to resolve the issues and mend your relationship with the writer. If that doesn't seem to be possible, stop going to the website. They will eventually get bored and move on.
Strangely, this one comes right after the portion I take issue with, and they seem to be somewhat contradictory, as one says that if you're not wanted at a weblog you should leave and respect their privacy and the other acknowledges that people are gonna get upset if they see bad things written about them.
Weblogs are not like houses. You can't "kick people out" and YOU don't GET to decide who's going to view your blog or not. All you can do is try to control where the URL goes, and that's about it. You don't have the power to decide who visits your site and who doesn't, because this is the Internet. It's not your fucking house.
While I do think that readme makes some good points, I'm mostly taking issue with this section:
"If they do not want you reading it, or suddenly stop posting entries, ask them why and if necessary, stop going to the site. It is important that as a friend, relative, co-worker or whatever you may be to the writer, that your presence at their weblog not impede their ability to express themselves. Remember this is their outlet. They may not want you to read certain things they might write about you or others you care about, in order to spare your feelings, avoid drama or maintain their privacy. You should respect this and immediately stop going to the site, and never relay any information you gather at their site to others who might use it against them."
I must respectfully disagree. Writing in an online journal is NOT the same as writing in pen and paper journal that is seen only by you and the underside of your mattress. Some of my readers are probably getting tired of me saying this, but I'm going to keep talking about it until I stop getting it thrown in my face by rude writers: PRIVACY. DOES NOT. EXIST. ON THE INTERNET.
ESPECIALLY when you A) are in webrings and B) LINK TO THE WEBSITE OF THE PERSON YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. I mean, could B be more of a DUH? If you link to someone, and then later write negatively about them, you've got no right to bitch and moan about how they weren't supposed to see it, because the only reason they did was because of your own carelessness.
Regardless of the steps you think you've taken to hide your blog, eventually it's going to be found, and you had better be prepared for a backlash if you are writing rude shit. It's not immature to be offended at a callous remark. It's immature to think that you shouldn't be taken to task and that you are not responsible for what you write in a public forum. Yes, I said PUBLIC. Obviously this is especially true for people who don't take any measures to hide the URL of their blogs (such as me), but it holds true for people who do, too. The Internet is a PUBLIC FORUM. GET OVER IT. Stop spouting this stupid, childish, whiny diatribe of, ohhh, it's my personal ranting space! I can do what I please! No one can say anything against me about it! To do so obviously shows their immaturity! The first three, I'm fine with. The last, no. Like I've said here before, you can feel free to take me to task if I write about you specifically in a negative light. Because I take responsibility for the shit I write, which is why when I'm pissed off at someone I don't generally write about in a public blog.
I'd be lying if I said this wasn't inspired by something, because it was, but I'm refraining from naming names because I know the writer I'm thinking of is trying to keep her blog inaccessible. But if she reads this, and wants to comment, and wants to IM me, or whatever, I'll answer.
As for the rest of the readme, I don't have a real problem with it. In fact, I like the following paragraph:
If someone writes about you and you don't appreciate it, approach them about it. Try to remain calm and polite. Explain that you are entitled to your privacy as well. There are many compromises that can be reached from using vague nicknames to protect your anonymity, or not mentioning you at all. If you are upset because they are writing negative things about you, be reasonable, try to see if there is a way to resolve the issues and mend your relationship with the writer. If that doesn't seem to be possible, stop going to the website. They will eventually get bored and move on.
Strangely, this one comes right after the portion I take issue with, and they seem to be somewhat contradictory, as one says that if you're not wanted at a weblog you should leave and respect their privacy and the other acknowledges that people are gonna get upset if they see bad things written about them.
Weblogs are not like houses. You can't "kick people out" and YOU don't GET to decide who's going to view your blog or not. All you can do is try to control where the URL goes, and that's about it. You don't have the power to decide who visits your site and who doesn't, because this is the Internet. It's not your fucking house.
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